Stills from two of the good movies i have watched lately- The Blue Umbrella and Dasvidaniya...
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Movies...
Stills from two of the good movies i have watched lately- The Blue Umbrella and Dasvidaniya...
Friday, August 14, 2009
Time Pass...
It's funny how certain words and sentences are used by people- as though there is no weightage and meaning to the word....
Take for example the word 'time pass'...
The usual sentences I've heard people using this word is "Oh! you don't work (When i was not working)? Then how do you pass time at home?"
When i started working the statement was something like "It's good you are working, you can easily pass your time at work."
Now, that i have a child the statement goes like "Passing time is not a problem now as you have the baby?"
It's as though passing time is the only aim in life...
Of course i didn't have a baby just to pass time-as i believe parenting is not just about time passing...
Or, just to pass time i didn't have to increase India's population...
Nor did i have a career then because i just wanted to pass time- there are many objectives and principles in life for me to work...
And, moreover if am at home it doesn't mean that i am bored and don't have anything to do...
One can do many things sitting at home than just passing time...
It's also pathetic how people term some of our hobbies and interests (which many people like doing sitting at home)as just time pass...
It's sad how some people are cynical and critical about our interests and values of life, thank god not everybody belongs to this category.
Take for example the word 'time pass'...
The usual sentences I've heard people using this word is "Oh! you don't work (When i was not working)? Then how do you pass time at home?"
When i started working the statement was something like "It's good you are working, you can easily pass your time at work."
Now, that i have a child the statement goes like "Passing time is not a problem now as you have the baby?"
It's as though passing time is the only aim in life...
Of course i didn't have a baby just to pass time-as i believe parenting is not just about time passing...
Or, just to pass time i didn't have to increase India's population...
Nor did i have a career then because i just wanted to pass time- there are many objectives and principles in life for me to work...
And, moreover if am at home it doesn't mean that i am bored and don't have anything to do...
One can do many things sitting at home than just passing time...
It's also pathetic how people term some of our hobbies and interests (which many people like doing sitting at home)as just time pass...
It's sad how some people are cynical and critical about our interests and values of life, thank god not everybody belongs to this category.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
The human brain
It's been a long time since i read anything serious especially related to my field (psychology)....
And still more, these busy days with my daughter made me think that i even forget whatever i had read while i was a student...
But, not really...
As i can see my psychology teachings being enacted in front of my eyes every day by my child...
While reading Developmental psychology i always found it difficult to match the age of the children with their milestones...
Even after completion of my Master's i didn't know at which age a child would reach a particular milestone....
But now, it's not that hard...
What is more amusing about watching the baby grow is 'wondering how the human brain develops with each day'...
The way our brain learn and unlearn things (how should i cry my mother is present and how should i fall asleep when dad is around), the way it can send those signals by the look of someone (who is my mother), the mapping of locations (which is 'my home' n which is not; i am out now; knowing where the TV is located;looking at the direction where the dad keeps his laptop etc.,), formation of language acquisition (quick reaction to the mother tongue and not to a foreign language that is played in TV)- it truly is amazing...
All this at such an early age of just 7 months!!!
While many people (whom i have encountered with) like to say "what a wonderful creation of GOD"; people like me would like to believe in the "wonders of nature" who created this human body...
And still more, these busy days with my daughter made me think that i even forget whatever i had read while i was a student...
But, not really...
As i can see my psychology teachings being enacted in front of my eyes every day by my child...
While reading Developmental psychology i always found it difficult to match the age of the children with their milestones...
Even after completion of my Master's i didn't know at which age a child would reach a particular milestone....
But now, it's not that hard...
What is more amusing about watching the baby grow is 'wondering how the human brain develops with each day'...
The way our brain learn and unlearn things (how should i cry my mother is present and how should i fall asleep when dad is around), the way it can send those signals by the look of someone (who is my mother), the mapping of locations (which is 'my home' n which is not; i am out now; knowing where the TV is located;looking at the direction where the dad keeps his laptop etc.,), formation of language acquisition (quick reaction to the mother tongue and not to a foreign language that is played in TV)- it truly is amazing...
All this at such an early age of just 7 months!!!
While many people (whom i have encountered with) like to say "what a wonderful creation of GOD"; people like me would like to believe in the "wonders of nature" who created this human body...
Thursday, May 14, 2009
That night
The night had set in.
A fluorescent tube lighted the whole room.
A mix of 'cool air' from the half opened window and 'hot air' from the running ceiling fan filled the place.
Everyone made their way to their respective rooms to fall into a fitful slumber.
It was then, their time to come out.
The first one (let me call it male because of its size)came out creeping through the jam packed shelf.
It paced hither and thither, caught on a prey and satisfied its hunger.
Then it waited.
The came the second one (presumably female).
Moving stealthily through the ventilation glass, it made its way into the room.
And waited right in front of the male.
Both waited for a few minutes.
Then the female signalled the male by slightly swirling its tale and by a chirping sound.
The male responded back with the same action.
After receiving the response the female moved forward.
Male followed the same course of action.
Likewise they reached a secret place for themselves.
In a few seconds they went into such a hiding that i couldn't make out.
But the whole action was so obvious that i don't have to explain what was happening between the two.
I didn't want to be voyeuristic as to watch their action.
Besides, they had moved into such a corner where it was impossible to sneak around.
May be they too knew that it was an act meant only for those two and must have also realized that there are people like me who would get pleasure in watching and writing about their love making.
Well, those two were the LIZARDS and naturally instincted like any one of us.
A fluorescent tube lighted the whole room.
A mix of 'cool air' from the half opened window and 'hot air' from the running ceiling fan filled the place.
Everyone made their way to their respective rooms to fall into a fitful slumber.
It was then, their time to come out.
The first one (let me call it male because of its size)came out creeping through the jam packed shelf.
It paced hither and thither, caught on a prey and satisfied its hunger.
Then it waited.
The came the second one (presumably female).
Moving stealthily through the ventilation glass, it made its way into the room.
And waited right in front of the male.
Both waited for a few minutes.
Then the female signalled the male by slightly swirling its tale and by a chirping sound.
The male responded back with the same action.
After receiving the response the female moved forward.
Male followed the same course of action.
Likewise they reached a secret place for themselves.
In a few seconds they went into such a hiding that i couldn't make out.
But the whole action was so obvious that i don't have to explain what was happening between the two.
I didn't want to be voyeuristic as to watch their action.
Besides, they had moved into such a corner where it was impossible to sneak around.
May be they too knew that it was an act meant only for those two and must have also realized that there are people like me who would get pleasure in watching and writing about their love making.
Well, those two were the LIZARDS and naturally instincted like any one of us.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 23, 2009
Missing link
It's strange how life changes...
More strange is the fact that our priorities in life too changes as time passes by...
There was a time when the outside world (my outdoor activities and friends)was my world and now my family is my world...
I really seem to have missed the link between myself and the world around me where all the action is taking place...
Then, my world was nothing but my hobbies, books, movies, friends, travel, music, blogs and ofcourse my career...
Now, my world revolves around my family- especially my baby...
It's good in it's own way but at times it looks too small a world...
And am waiting to join my stream of world in a few days...
It feels great when this world looks bigger and bigger where action is taking place at all times...
More strange is the fact that our priorities in life too changes as time passes by...
There was a time when the outside world (my outdoor activities and friends)was my world and now my family is my world...
I really seem to have missed the link between myself and the world around me where all the action is taking place...
Then, my world was nothing but my hobbies, books, movies, friends, travel, music, blogs and ofcourse my career...
Now, my world revolves around my family- especially my baby...
It's good in it's own way but at times it looks too small a world...
And am waiting to join my stream of world in a few days...
It feels great when this world looks bigger and bigger where action is taking place at all times...
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Good things...
Few goods things to enjoy while entering motherhood:
First, the most important (for a person like me): PUTTING ON WEIGHT...
Second, Getting pampered and getting all the attention which you will not get later in life...
Third, those kicks inside the womb which can make jump in excitement...
Fourth, amazement at the beauty of nature as to how a tiny life curls up in ones womb which again has so many organs working incessantly and in most cases those functions and connections being formed impeccably...
Well rest all in just pains and aches for nine months...
And i still haven't understood why women yearn to take these pains and aches as something which would make them 'complete'!
First, the most important (for a person like me): PUTTING ON WEIGHT...
Second, Getting pampered and getting all the attention which you will not get later in life...
Third, those kicks inside the womb which can make jump in excitement...
Fourth, amazement at the beauty of nature as to how a tiny life curls up in ones womb which again has so many organs working incessantly and in most cases those functions and connections being formed impeccably...
Well rest all in just pains and aches for nine months...
And i still haven't understood why women yearn to take these pains and aches as something which would make them 'complete'!
Life-not so beautiful
Life isn't so beautiful for some people especially for S right now...
I always thought there is light after darkness but in her case darkness was an indication of a 'black hole' lying further ahead...
I become speechless whenever i speak to her...
Why life is being so unfair for her throughout?
Her 'life' has shown how powerful 'death' could be and is...
I wish i could be with her now...
I always thought there is light after darkness but in her case darkness was an indication of a 'black hole' lying further ahead...
I become speechless whenever i speak to her...
Why life is being so unfair for her throughout?
Her 'life' has shown how powerful 'death' could be and is...
I wish i could be with her now...
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Kannada Matrimony!
A recent mail which i received about 'finding the right girl' for marriage:
ಹುಡುಗಿ
ಬೇಕಾಗಿದ್ದಾಳೆ
ಇರಬೇಕು ತುಂಬಾ
ಸಿಂಪಲ್ !
ನಕ್ಕರೆ
ಗಲ್ಲದ ಮೇಲೆ
ಬೀಳಬೇಕು
ಡಿಂಪಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ತಲೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಇರಬೇಕು
ಪುಟ್ಟ ಪ್ರೊಸೆಸರ್
ಇಂಟೆಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ರೂಪ-ಲಾವಣ್ಯ ಕಂಡು
ಬಾಯಿಬಿಡಬೇಕು
ಪಕ್ಕದ್ಮನೆ ಅಂಕಲ್ !
ಅವಳು
ಸ್ನಾನಕ್ಕೆ ಹಚ್ಚಬೇಕು
ದಿನಾ ಸೋಪು
ಸಿಂಥಾಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ಅಂದ ಹೊಗಳುತ್ತಾ
ಕವಿಯಾಗಬೇಕು
ಮೆಂಟಲ್ !
ಎತ್ತರದಲ್ಲಿ
ಅವಳಾಗಿರಬೇಕು
ರಾಜಸ್ತಾನದ
ಕ್ಯಾಮೆಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ಗಲ್ಲ ನೋಡಿ ನೆನಪಾಗಬೇಕು
ಕಾಶ್ಮೀರದ ಸಿಹಿ
ಆಪಲ್ !
ಅವಳು
ಬೀದಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಡೆದರೆ
ಕಾಮೆಂಟ್ರಿ ಹೇಳಬೇಕು
ಇಯಾನ್ ಚಾಪೆಲ್ !
ಮುಖದ ಮೇಲೆ
ಇರಲಿ ಒಂದೇ
ಒಂದು ಹರೆಯದ
ಪಿಂಪಲ್ !
ನಮ್ಮ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂಬ
ಧರ್ಮಕ್ಕೆ ಅವಳಾಗಬೇಕು
ಗೀತಾ-ಕುರಾನ್
ಬೈಬಲ್ !
ಅವಳು ಪ್ರೀತಿ
ಮೆಚ್ಚಿ ನಾ ಕಟ್ಟಬೇಕು
ಇನ್ನೊಂದು
ತಾಜ್ಮಹಲ್ !
ಎಲ್ಲದಕ್ಕೂ ಮೊದಲ
ಅವಶ್ಯಕತೆ
ಅವಳಾಗಿರಬೇಕು
ಸಿಂಗಲ್ !
ಇವಳೇನಾದರು
ನಿಮಗೆ ಸಿಕ್ಕರೆ
ನನ್ನ ಅಡ್ರೆಸ್ಗೆ ಮಾಡಿ
ಈ-ಮೇಲ್ !!
ಹುಡುಗಿ
ಬೇಕಾಗಿದ್ದಾಳೆ
ಇರಬೇಕು ತುಂಬಾ
ಸಿಂಪಲ್ !
ನಕ್ಕರೆ
ಗಲ್ಲದ ಮೇಲೆ
ಬೀಳಬೇಕು
ಡಿಂಪಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ತಲೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಇರಬೇಕು
ಪುಟ್ಟ ಪ್ರೊಸೆಸರ್
ಇಂಟೆಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ರೂಪ-ಲಾವಣ್ಯ ಕಂಡು
ಬಾಯಿಬಿಡಬೇಕು
ಪಕ್ಕದ್ಮನೆ ಅಂಕಲ್ !
ಅವಳು
ಸ್ನಾನಕ್ಕೆ ಹಚ್ಚಬೇಕು
ದಿನಾ ಸೋಪು
ಸಿಂಥಾಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ಅಂದ ಹೊಗಳುತ್ತಾ
ಕವಿಯಾಗಬೇಕು
ಮೆಂಟಲ್ !
ಎತ್ತರದಲ್ಲಿ
ಅವಳಾಗಿರಬೇಕು
ರಾಜಸ್ತಾನದ
ಕ್ಯಾಮೆಲ್ !
ಅವಳ
ಗಲ್ಲ ನೋಡಿ ನೆನಪಾಗಬೇಕು
ಕಾಶ್ಮೀರದ ಸಿಹಿ
ಆಪಲ್ !
ಅವಳು
ಬೀದಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಡೆದರೆ
ಕಾಮೆಂಟ್ರಿ ಹೇಳಬೇಕು
ಇಯಾನ್ ಚಾಪೆಲ್ !
ಮುಖದ ಮೇಲೆ
ಇರಲಿ ಒಂದೇ
ಒಂದು ಹರೆಯದ
ಪಿಂಪಲ್ !
ನಮ್ಮ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂಬ
ಧರ್ಮಕ್ಕೆ ಅವಳಾಗಬೇಕು
ಗೀತಾ-ಕುರಾನ್
ಬೈಬಲ್ !
ಅವಳು ಪ್ರೀತಿ
ಮೆಚ್ಚಿ ನಾ ಕಟ್ಟಬೇಕು
ಇನ್ನೊಂದು
ತಾಜ್ಮಹಲ್ !
ಎಲ್ಲದಕ್ಕೂ ಮೊದಲ
ಅವಶ್ಯಕತೆ
ಅವಳಾಗಿರಬೇಕು
ಸಿಂಗಲ್ !
ಇವಳೇನಾದರು
ನಿಮಗೆ ಸಿಕ್ಕರೆ
ನನ್ನ ಅಡ್ರೆಸ್ಗೆ ಮಾಡಿ
ಈ-ಮೇಲ್ !!
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Self-Identity v/s Compromise
Thoughts came rushing in after i spoke to A the other day. Her questions, it seemed valid enough: at least in her position they were in place. She said: "I knew i had to make compromises and i did make it but what do i get after those compromises? Ill treatment, fights and some orders to make some compromises? If that is so why do i have to gone on like this? Don't i have my own identity? Before marriage he never uttered a word but now everything has changed"...
Nobody else could understand her situation better than I; but only difference was that she has just got into that relationship and i came out of it long back...
Now, what distinguishes compromise from self- expression?
I think there is a very thin line between the two...
If not drawn properly one or the other person in the relationship suffers...
One should know where self- expression ends and where compromise starts...
One question that always irks me is 'Why always women are expected to make more adjustments than men? Just because they are women? Or to grandiose the idea of women later by saying she suffered so much so she is great?
It's not that men don't make compromises; they do but when they don't nobody asks them any questions whereas if a woman fails to do so hundreds and thousands of questions are asked...
There are of course a category of women who love to compromise to the extent that they lose their own identity and still they are happy about it...There is an advantage with that system: NO FIGHTS between the couple...
But it's not the only category. There are those women who at any cost wouldn't let their self- identity lose and are so not ready make the slightest adjustments...
And there is the third category who can balance between the two...
Education and career, i had thought, would the scene to a greater extent: But how many educated women are able to come out of bad relationships and why can't educated people change their mentality of harassing the woman?
The questions are too many...
I only wish A would find a place and a solution where she could find solace...
Nobody else could understand her situation better than I; but only difference was that she has just got into that relationship and i came out of it long back...
Now, what distinguishes compromise from self- expression?
I think there is a very thin line between the two...
If not drawn properly one or the other person in the relationship suffers...
One should know where self- expression ends and where compromise starts...
One question that always irks me is 'Why always women are expected to make more adjustments than men? Just because they are women? Or to grandiose the idea of women later by saying she suffered so much so she is great?
It's not that men don't make compromises; they do but when they don't nobody asks them any questions whereas if a woman fails to do so hundreds and thousands of questions are asked...
There are of course a category of women who love to compromise to the extent that they lose their own identity and still they are happy about it...There is an advantage with that system: NO FIGHTS between the couple...
But it's not the only category. There are those women who at any cost wouldn't let their self- identity lose and are so not ready make the slightest adjustments...
And there is the third category who can balance between the two...
Education and career, i had thought, would the scene to a greater extent: But how many educated women are able to come out of bad relationships and why can't educated people change their mentality of harassing the woman?
The questions are too many...
I only wish A would find a place and a solution where she could find solace...
Thursday, October 2, 2008
ROCK ON!!!
Farhan Akhtar does rock...
Thoroughly enjoyed the movie...
Just like Dil Chahta Hai, it once again brings back the magic moments of one's old friendship and your passion for same interests....
But one thing is still unclear to me is 'why does Farhan always start his film with the flashback rather than the present'...Be it Dil chahta hai, lakshya or Rock on it starts with its past...
Hmmm interesting but never mind unless and until he's giving us good movies...
And ofcourse, it also makes one enjoy and fall in love with the ROCK music...
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Ganesh Chaturti with a Difference
Festivals always meant for me spending more time on cooking some extra dishes (of course mouth watering)with a bit of pooja to woo the God...
But this year's Ganesh Chaturti was a bit different though even this included cooking and pooja....
Cooking- to a great extent and pooja- to even more greater extent...Though i was least involved in the cooking process but of course was involved in the pooja process to a large extent (as i think i was)which i never thought i would ever do...
Well, life asks for so many adjustments sometimes and you readily do it for your loved ones and so did i...
And so i think it was a festival with a difference.
But this year's Ganesh Chaturti was a bit different though even this included cooking and pooja....
Cooking- to a great extent and pooja- to even more greater extent...Though i was least involved in the cooking process but of course was involved in the pooja process to a large extent (as i think i was)which i never thought i would ever do...
Well, life asks for so many adjustments sometimes and you readily do it for your loved ones and so did i...
And so i think it was a festival with a difference.
Just like that...
I have tried many times to directly type whatever i wanted to convey through my blog but every time i found it difficult to do so...
May be it's old fashioned but i always find it comfortable to first jot down every thought process in a piece of paper before typing it down...
Well ofcourse these three sentences i have typed directly without wrtiting it down.
May be it's old fashioned but i always find it comfortable to first jot down every thought process in a piece of paper before typing it down...
Well ofcourse these three sentences i have typed directly without wrtiting it down.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Whoever said cooking isn't rocket science...
I used to watch a cookery show which said 'cooking isn't rocket science'...
But for people like me it surely is...
Everyday i think optimistically 'OK today i will prepare something i.e more tastier than yesterday; at least with proper proportion of salt, sugar and spice in it'...
But somehow i never seem to get the chemistry right...
I think preparing breakfast and snacks is more easier than preparing dishes for rice...
And one more surprising fact is that when am trying a new recipe it comes out excellent but i do the same thing again there's something missing...
Am lucky that i have a really good hubby who doesn't really comment on my cooking...
But it's really bad when i do expect some comments from him and he doesn't make any...
But for people like me it surely is...
Everyday i think optimistically 'OK today i will prepare something i.e more tastier than yesterday; at least with proper proportion of salt, sugar and spice in it'...
But somehow i never seem to get the chemistry right...
I think preparing breakfast and snacks is more easier than preparing dishes for rice...
And one more surprising fact is that when am trying a new recipe it comes out excellent but i do the same thing again there's something missing...
Am lucky that i have a really good hubby who doesn't really comment on my cooking...
But it's really bad when i do expect some comments from him and he doesn't make any...
Chetan Bhagat's New Book
After reading two of Chetan Bhagat's books: 5 point someone and One nite @ the call centre, I was eagerly waiting for his next book...
And it did arrive and i couldn't wait to read..
But at the same time i didn't want to spend on the book right now as i had already spent a lot for books lately...
Nevertheless, i did go to the bookstore to get a glimpse of what the book was all about...
And ofcourse at the end i ended up buying the book as it was priced so less...
May be he and his publishers understood his readers very well...
As with Bhagat's book it was an easy reading, funfilled book yet conveying message in its own way...
Although in the end it did look a little too far fetched (which is usual of Bhagat again and i think that's what fictions are meant for)the book is a good one...
And it did arrive and i couldn't wait to read..
But at the same time i didn't want to spend on the book right now as i had already spent a lot for books lately...
Nevertheless, i did go to the bookstore to get a glimpse of what the book was all about...
And ofcourse at the end i ended up buying the book as it was priced so less...
May be he and his publishers understood his readers very well...
As with Bhagat's book it was an easy reading, funfilled book yet conveying message in its own way...
Although in the end it did look a little too far fetched (which is usual of Bhagat again and i think that's what fictions are meant for)the book is a good one...
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