After a long time........
May be i wanted more time to be away from everything especially after the mental torture i went through with Mr.A.........
Finally am happy to be free from that traumatic relationship though some traces of memory i still have.........Uhhhhhh I still remember the sleepless nights i spent,the rejection and insult shown coz of being "skinny",criticism for leading a carefree life of my own,for having my own principles and my stubborness to change those just for one person and ofcourse the less support of parents for being "a girl" born in an "Indian" "middleclass" family. Though i have to admit sooner or later i got my parental support:))))))) which made me more happier.......
Right now, at this point of time, am more happier for two important reasons i) finding the right kind of person i was searching for ii) breaking up with the most possessive person i have ever seen in this world....
Ofcourse i have got my right person and am very sure of it now (i hope so...just crossing my fingers)........
Though an "arranaged" marriage as people call it still no regrets as i liked him......
Just yesterday i happen to read my colleague's blog (new colleague from Hungary who's started working as a volunteer in our institution) in which she has expressed her complete curiosity and shock about the Indian type of "arranged" or "fixed" marriages.....May be i can completey understand her culture shock but at the same time she has also mentioned in her blog about the hard realities Western people face in the name of "dating" or " love marriages" or "live-in relationships"- that every second marriage ends up in a divorce or every third pregnancy ends up in an abortion!!!!!!!!!!!
So whats better.....An Indian "arranged marriage with its hard core compromises.......or the Western style marriages in which u try to match everything beforehand and still your relationship ends up in divorce..........Hmmmmmmmm thats really tricky
So am still confused with these two ideas of arranged marriage and love marriage.......n ofcourse both of them have their own advantages and disadvantages......
Ok got to rush........
Saturday, March 31, 2007
Monday, February 5, 2007
Return to Innocence
Very often we like to go back to our childhood just to forget the toils of the present day work.
But imagine your work itself giving you an opportunity to work with kids who always cheer you without giving any chance of early burn out.....
Same thing happens with my work too....
Working with children is not just work,its a way of releasing your tensions,forgetting that you are an adult and just being yourself...
I returned to my innocence while working with these two kids at my workplace....
Let me call one of them as "K" and the other "A".
"K" was the first kid i ever worked with. Though he had terrible problems in writing and interacting with people, he had the magic of bringing smile on anybody's face.
It was only three months that i worked with that kid but it made an impression in my mind for the life time.
After those three months we had to say goodbye to each other but i did not know how to make him realize that his sister (as he addressed me) won't be with him there after.
That poor little kid had the idea that he will be meeting me again after 2 months but.....
Looking at the innocence of "K" i did not have the courage to let him know that he will not be seeing his sister anymore.
Talking about "A"...Interaction with "A" was lesser compared to "K". But it influenced me even more."A" had more severe problems than "K". At times he would make me angry and frustrated but it made me like him all the more.
It was only once in a week that i met him but still his way of doing things lingered around all the time.
One fine day i reached my workplace with the thoughts of meeting "A" as it was long time since i had met him.When i arrived at my workplace ultimately i heard someone saying "A"'s parents have shifted to another place without even informing our school authorities.
Tears rolled from my eyes at the first realization of the sentence.
But "A" was gone from here may be never to return back.
This is the irony of life-Children make us return to innocence but sometimes they go out of our lives never to return back.
But imagine your work itself giving you an opportunity to work with kids who always cheer you without giving any chance of early burn out.....
Same thing happens with my work too....
Working with children is not just work,its a way of releasing your tensions,forgetting that you are an adult and just being yourself...
I returned to my innocence while working with these two kids at my workplace....
Let me call one of them as "K" and the other "A".
"K" was the first kid i ever worked with. Though he had terrible problems in writing and interacting with people, he had the magic of bringing smile on anybody's face.
It was only three months that i worked with that kid but it made an impression in my mind for the life time.
After those three months we had to say goodbye to each other but i did not know how to make him realize that his sister (as he addressed me) won't be with him there after.
That poor little kid had the idea that he will be meeting me again after 2 months but.....
Looking at the innocence of "K" i did not have the courage to let him know that he will not be seeing his sister anymore.
Talking about "A"...Interaction with "A" was lesser compared to "K". But it influenced me even more."A" had more severe problems than "K". At times he would make me angry and frustrated but it made me like him all the more.
It was only once in a week that i met him but still his way of doing things lingered around all the time.
One fine day i reached my workplace with the thoughts of meeting "A" as it was long time since i had met him.When i arrived at my workplace ultimately i heard someone saying "A"'s parents have shifted to another place without even informing our school authorities.
Tears rolled from my eyes at the first realization of the sentence.
But "A" was gone from here may be never to return back.
This is the irony of life-Children make us return to innocence but sometimes they go out of our lives never to return back.
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Relationships
Would like to share these words spoken by Kaleel Jamison
"Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in hands,
held loosely with an open hand, the sand remains where it is....
the minute you close your hand and sqeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold on to some of it,but most will be spilled....
A relationship is like that....
Held loosely with respect and freedom for the person it's likely to remain intact...
But held too tightly,too possessively relationship slips away and is lost"....
"Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in hands,
held loosely with an open hand, the sand remains where it is....
the minute you close your hand and sqeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold on to some of it,but most will be spilled....
A relationship is like that....
Held loosely with respect and freedom for the person it's likely to remain intact...
But held too tightly,too possessively relationship slips away and is lost"....
Thursday, January 18, 2007
At last..........
At last........i started blogging......
I had been thinking of creating my own blog from a very very long time indeed......and now i did get the "time" to do it!!!!!!!!
Or i would rather say i had the time to create but never made it.
And thats the problem with most of us!!!!!!!!
We all sit and wait for the rite time which never turns up unless and until we make up our minds and start working towards it.
I had been thinking of creating my own blog from a very very long time indeed......and now i did get the "time" to do it!!!!!!!!
Or i would rather say i had the time to create but never made it.
And thats the problem with most of us!!!!!!!!
We all sit and wait for the rite time which never turns up unless and until we make up our minds and start working towards it.
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